Abominations & Agitations
I’ve heard many times that you’re not supposed to ask the “typical questions” when flirting, and that it can make you seem boring to the girl.
I disagree. I think it’s weird if you don’t mix some “ordinary” questions in when you’re getting to know a girl. Sure, you need to have high energy, and hit some emotional high points. But you also need some ordinary “getting to know you” talk.
Which “typical” questions are at issue here?
How do you make your money?
Are you in school?
Have any children?
How long have you lived here?
While it is possible to bore a girl to tears if you constantly barrage her with an inquisition, that doesn’t mean you can’t ask some of these questions.
This is the magic formula:
ORDINARY QUESTION FLIRTING PRINCIPLE: When you ask an “ordinary question”, make sure you PLAY with her response.
I often query a girl about her schooling or work upon first meeting her.
And then, I play with her answer.
Like this:
If she says she’s studying radiology, I’ll say “Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you’d totally help me out. You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?”
She laughs. She feels like you value her for something other than her looks. And you frame the interaction as one of her being ready to SERVE you in some way.
This approach will work almost every time. And it’s fun.
Give it a shot the next time you talk with a woman. Use it even on women you’re not attracted to – just to get the practice in.
Use it with store clerks, your aunts at the family reunion, little old ladies. They all love it!
T.P. (PhD) is the author of “Flirting Decosntructed”. Take his free flirting quiz and learn how to flirt at http://how2flirt.com
